As sayings do, one came across the internet the other day that struck a chord with me. In effect: The exact words spoken may be forgotten, but the way they make you feel never will be.
That one's taken a long time for me to learn, and I've never seen or heard it put so succinctly. In not wanting to be misunderstood, or to be thought stupid, in sheer disbelief, or whatever, I think many times I totally overlooked how my words made the listener feel.
Max and I often joke about my tactlessness, and we've said I earned it honestly from my dad. I wonder if my tactlessness isn't sheer blindness in not realizing how my words will make the listener feel. Maybe they're the same thing.